Leadership doesn’t have to mean overwhelm!
As I coach leaders at all levels, they have 1 thing in common: the potential for overwhelm.
Overwhelm and chaos can happen to the even the most experienced, organized or aware leader.
Three keys to Stop Overwhelm in it’s tracks:
A new client yesterday spoke in a cheerful and uplifting tone, “I’ve never had coaching before and am excited to learn how to have a new perspective to the issues I face”. I respond, “Terrific. Looking at the overall vision you have set out for yourself – what is the main shift in perspective you are most excited about?”
She explained, “Well…because more teams have been added to my role; I don’t have any time to develop my leadership; and that’s a concern.”
“What is your primary concern?”
And here came the bottom line, “I’m totally overwhelmed sometimes”. It was apparent that we couldn’t get to her leadership vision until we checked out how she handles time and priorities.
Checking that out, I respond, “It sounds like we better look at your actual time before we can discuss your vision, is that right?”
She responds, “Oh my gosh that would be helpful.”
“Alright, let’s look at your schedule for this week….would you be open to checking out your calendar with me right now?”
“Sure”, she said, opening her calendar shared with 3 departments in as many cities.
Tell me what Monday looks like. She says ruefully, “Well I am booked solid from 7am-5pm in meetings.”
“So let me get this straight, you are booked back to back in meetings?”
She says sadly, “Yeah, I usually don’t eat lunch either, and I actually work until 10pm getting through my work”. I ask, “How is that for you?” She says, “It’s exhausting and (this next sentence tells me what’s really important to them, things like:), my husband is complaining I’m never at dinner, or I can’t see what’s going on because I’m so ‘in it’, or I have no time to strategize my own goals for the teams, or I sometimes doubt why I took my job.
This is a common scenario with new leaders or leaders up for promotion in all levels. There are various reasons they describe why the schedule is happening like this. Those reasons are the coaching path, but truthfully we have to create some space for her to breathe before we can get to any strategy or behaviors. Many people who book others aren’t even checking her availability, just looping her in in case she’s available, or for oversight.
Here’s what we did and some variation of these can make a huge difference in any leaders schedule. Let’s face it, how covid-busy are you? How free do you want to be?
In our following coaching meeting on Zoom she is excited that coaching made a difference for her in 1 week. She reports the metrics of her time plan, how she was fearful of push back yet proceeded anyway. The ultimate win to her was being at the dinner table with her husband and young sons. As her coach, I notice the absolute incredulous smile that a simple yet difficult task like scheduling could bring her closeness with her family.
